tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1199794552537488619.post8343482674820333816..comments2013-11-14T07:42:03.806-08:00Comments on Just Enough: This week it was a hatchet.Mikahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16117513620033130847noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1199794552537488619.post-69644155083160647702013-10-30T20:05:18.278-07:002013-10-30T20:05:18.278-07:00I hope this post didn't sound like I was promo...I hope this post didn't sound like I was promoting carelessness. The intent was to recognize that each parent's limits are different, each one has different battles that they fight. I was sharing stories of the battles I've fought and the ones I've let go of and the ones I've had little control of, but maybe could've had more control of if I functioned different. But this is my point. While you might make safety the top priority, I am finding that I'm finding a balance between safety and exploration. There is danger in letting your child explore and in not hovering. When I make it a point to stay close, I micromanage. I know myself. So I try to give them a little extra room. And in the case of the knife incidences, it was during a time of extreme sleep deprivation for me. And "too often" meant 3-4 times until we found a way to keep the knives out of his reach that also did not encourage him to climb, which happened at least once. I'm sure my sleep deprivation would have been less had we bottle fed or not co-slept, but breastfeeding and cuddling and sleeping when I could were all priorities. The few week stretch of figuring out knives didn't make it not worth it for me, but had there been a major accident, maybe my post would look differently, but I hope not. And the flip side of this is that I am learning to not pass judgement on the mom who chooses to bottle feed or let her child cry himself to sleep so she can sleep so she can be present every waking moment. And while tragedies should be a wake up call to take appropriate safety precautions - having high locks on doors or gates that surround pools for instance, that will never alleviate basic human error. So, prayer and guidance from the Holy Spirit are what I was promoting to lead parents rather than fear and a stack of books. Sure, a good dose of fear and some great advice can be helpful, but I don't think we should be led by that. I hope that helps to clarify my purpose. Mikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16117513620033130847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1199794552537488619.post-22267318129776742372013-10-30T19:56:20.859-07:002013-10-30T19:56:20.859-07:00Thank you, Susan. :) You are pretty amazing yourse...Thank you, Susan. :) You are pretty amazing yourself. I think you are fully immersed in the things God prepared you for and continues to prepare for you. I am amazed at the work you do in the lives of everyone you touch. I miss you too!Mikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16117513620033130847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1199794552537488619.post-78002337588164819562013-10-30T19:31:13.901-07:002013-10-30T19:31:13.901-07:00It's definitely wise to keep the kids safe but...It's definitely wise to keep the kids safe but it's a fine line from safety to breaking their spirit. <br />Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05568420575373240673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1199794552537488619.post-58694993552049701322013-10-30T02:52:10.492-07:002013-10-30T02:52:10.492-07:00The first time you "allow" your child t...The first time you "allow" your child to have a knife or anything with which he could do harm to himself or others and does it, that will be when you will take the measures you should have taken earlier. We cannot all be perfect, but when we are blessed with catching it the first time, either the knife or the hammer should never had happened and is the responsibility of the parent to make sure it does not. If we can keep your child from reaching up and touching the burner on the stove we can also prevent the knife and the hammer incidents. Neither one should have been out in the open for a second unsupervised by an adult. It may be cute, for instance, to watch our child find his way through the sliding glass doors leading out to the pool, but it is no laughing matter when he drowns because we had no idea that he had left us even for a few seconds. "I wish I had<br /> is the phrase we never want to have to say later,.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17067404989474328272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1199794552537488619.post-51471629121941792442013-10-29T20:54:47.037-07:002013-10-29T20:54:47.037-07:00you're such an amazing woman and a mother I le...you're such an amazing woman and a mother I learned so many things from just watching you last year, and I knew THAT GOD was preparing me for something, thank you for being obedient to HIM by letting your light shine I was able to see..thank you and I miss you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17869950800311576975noreply@blogger.com